Sunday, October 12, 2008

Maddie James - “It’s a Libra Thing.”


Right now, it’s all about balance. I’m talking about my life, you know? Maybe I’m talking about yours, too. For me, it has a lot to do with the month and the astrological sign. Oh yeah, the birthday is coming up. Tomorrow. I’m a Libra. And balance is a big thing for us Libras. At least it is for me.

I often struggle with the balance between day job and writing. I know I’m not the only one. It could be inherent, who knows? It sure does feel deep-seated, like it’s a part of me I can’t shake.

Are you ever like that? When the balance in your life is run-amok, do you struggle to get it back and put your life on-kilter again?

I do.

So, I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. Balance. Life. Creating order. I’ve also be
en cleaning out closets. Interesting, the things you find when you clean out closets. Yesterday, I found a writing portfolio that I created for a job interview nine years ago. The portfolio must have done the trick because I was hired and still have the job. Yes, the job that supports my writing habit.

You have one of those, right? The job that supports your writing lifestyle? The one that pays the mortgage, the utilities, the groceries, and provides the nice retirement plan? Ah yes. The necessary job that keeps you in caffeine so you can stay up late and write? That one.

Anyway, as I thumb through the pages of my portfolio I do a little reflecting on my past twenty-some years of writing and suddenly, I feel, well, satisfied-even though I’m STILL not writing full time. Even though I still strive for that elusive “big contract.” Yes, I am satisfied with my accomplishments but I’m not yet settling for status quo.

I recall the desperation to “get published” all those years ago. A small byline in the local newspaper was gold to me. The articles I wrote for a softball magazine were priceless. And oh, what about that column for a regional magazine titled, “One Woman’s Perspective?” That one got me in trouble more than once with the ex and his family. Seems they did not hold the same opinions as moi, but I did say “ex” and family, so perhaps that is self-explanatory.

I’ve come a long way. The portfolio, even though I stopped adding to it in 2000, is a nice validation of the journey I’ve taken on this road to publication. I’ve added a couple dozen or so
works of non-fiction to the list, not to mention another dozen works of romance fiction. I suppose it’s time to update the portfolio. Although I have no desire to job hunt, it is nice to have the validation of my writing work all in one place.

Balance. Creating order. Feeding both my right and left sides of the brain. I’m striving for that right now as I contemplate another year added to my life, and one less year of my five-year-plan toward writing full time.

Do I hear a ticking clock? Do I have the balance I want and need in my (writing) life? Do you?

I’d love to hear your thoughts about balance in life, writing or otherwise. What is important to you?

Maddie

p.s. Thanks, Terra, for the opportunity to visit your page!



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Maddie writes about stuff like balance, and tarantulas, and cupcakes on her blog,
Life Unedited You can also find out about her latest romance releases, too, like A Perfect Escape, a single title romantic suspense, that just hit Amazon this week, or Red: A Seduction Tale, which tells the story of what happened when Little Red Riding Hood grew up, now available at Fictionwise You may also want to visit her in Legend, Tennessee, where she cavorts in the fictional world she’s created with her SisterWriters

p.s.s. I’ll give away a print, trade paperback copy of Ladies of Legend: Finding Home, and an ebook of Red: A Seduction Tale. Just leave a comment to be entered!

39 comments:

Dina said...

Hi Maddie,

Balance sometimes, but not always when you want it.

Maddie James said...

Hm. Yes, I think you're right, Dina. Perhaps one should just be happy living in the moment, however that moment is?

maddie

Breeni Books said...

It's nice to know I'm not alone. I have major trouble balancing anything! Always running to catch up...

It's good that you are reflecting on your accomplishments. Keep it up!

TamiC said...

I find it hard to balance everything also. Sometimes you are not always able to get to everything you wanted to or you realize hmmm... I should've spent that moment with a loved one instead of doing laundry or whatever it was.

Leslie said...

Happy Birthday Maddie! I live with two Libras ~ my daughter(Oct. 12) and my husband(Oct. 13).

Balance in life I think is almost impossible to achieve. Just when you think you've got it something comes along to throw it off. I guess it's all about prioritizing and not stressing when things get off kilter.

Hywela Lyn said...

Hi Maddie

Happy Birthday. I'm a Libran too. (Oct 2nd). I find it very difficult balancing the various aspects of my life too - and one thing I find very difficult about beig a Libran - I always seem to be able to see both sides of an argument - even if I'm one of the ones doing the arguing! :)

Maddie James said...

Hi everyone. It's great to meet each of you. I think reflecting is a good thing, too, Breeni. Seems like I do a lot of that lately. Does it have to do with getting older? I dunno.

And like tamic and leslie, I do think balance is a difficult thing to attain, and keep, just because of life. Things just get in the way. I think leslie may have hit the nail on the head about not stressing. Good point!

maddie

Maddie James said...

hywela lyn. I know! I do the same thing! And of course, I never want to hurt anyone's feelings.

But that's probably not just a Libra thing...

maddie

Miss Slick One said...

Happy Birthday, Maddie! Mine is on the 20th, it's an awesome month to have a Birthday!
Enjoy your special week!
Phyllis Sherer in SC

angietheresa said...

happy birthday
i find it very hard to balance my life. im dyslexic and dyspraxic and time just runs away from me, my kids have got in the habit of reminding me what i have to do.
i home school as well as study at home to be a lawyer, i just tend to go with the flow

Renee DeMarcus said...

Hi Maddie!
Balance? Hmm... Well, I'm always striving for organization and balance, not sure I'm ever really achieving true balance but things do get accomplished along the way.

My twin daughters are Libras and one of them loves to say, "I can't decide--I'm a Libra--we don't do decisions!" This is applied to everything from what to order in the lunch-line to which socks to put on.
:)
Renee

Magdalena Scott said...

Maddie,

I hear you! The constant effort to balance the scales… Wow, being a Libra is exhausting, isn’t it?

I’m glad you found your writing portfolio. Now, ater you update it, don’t stuff it back into the closet. Keep it where it can serve as a reminder of you how far you’ve come. You’re doing terrific work!

Magdalena

radiantfitness said...

Happy Birthday to you! (I'm celebrating mine today as well, though it's tomorrow).

I spend so much time trying to get into balance that I don't time to do the things I'm trying to balance! I prepare prepare prepare, and yet, I'm always a bit panicked at deadline time. It all gets done, but it retrospect, some of it wasn't much fun.

Terra57 said...

Morning everyone and Welcome Maddie! Happy Birthday sweetie and to all the other Libra's here. My birthday is tomorrow the 14th so I am a true Libra being smack dab in the middle of the sign.

Ahhhh, balance. As Libra's we are supposed to be balanced but how many of us really are? I try like the dickens to keep the scales even but just as I think things are okay and my life is well balanced doesn't the cosmic forces have to throw a monkey wrench on one side to tip the scales. Sheesh, talk about a sense of humor. Oh well, all you can do is lighten the load on one side to try and have some semblence of balance.

Well I hope all of you have a wonderful day today and hope your birthdays have been or will be Very Happy!
huggs,
Terra

Bridget said...

I've posted at Win A Book. Thanks! No need to enter the contest, though.

Margay said...

What an interesting concept - Little Red Riding Hood all grown up.

Slayermel said...

Hi Maddie, I can relate to you 100%!
I am a Libra too and my birthday is coming up on Thursday, and I'm always struggling with finding balance in almost everything I do.
Balancing my full time job with my part time job, my jobs with my family and friends, my life with my hobbies. It feels like it never ends some days. Then there are the two sides of the scale where some times I want to keep people happy and other days I just stop caring, a nice balance in that would be good too ;o)
Oh well, long story short.... I get what your saying. :oD

Leah Braemel said...

Sometimes we don't know things are balanced when they are. It's one of those grass is always greener things, I think. Sounds like you've figured out your grass is pretty darned good the way it is.

And same here!

Vanessa Hart said...

Balance in my life is the reason I write only part-time. I love my chosen career, but I also love my family, my hobbies, and travel. If I wrote all the stories that are inside me, I'd stay at the computer 24/7!

Nessie

rb said...

Ah..balance. The zen of everything..

Danielle said...

I seem to have a real problem with balancing my life. From one Libra to another Maddie, happy birthday! Mine is this 19th. Do you also find yourself judging others and needing to be in charge? I do. Then again maybe it is just my personality and not my sign. Geez I hope not! LOL. As for the balancing I have a really hard time with it. I have so much going on at all times that I don't really have ME TIME. MON WED FRID is son's football. TUES THURS is daughter's soccer. SAT. is bowling SUND. is Hubby's softball. Plus working at the grocery store. Plus doing book reviews. I really do not have time to write. I have all these ideas going around and around in my head but no time to put them on the PC. Maybe I need to rent a mom! LOL. Any ideas? LOL.

Maddie James said...

hi everyone! sneaking in from work for a minute. Wow, so many Libras here! My birthday is actually the 14th, so I share the day with several of you...and the birthday week. When I wrote the blog I was thinking it would go up today, the 13th, so that's why I put that my birthday is tomorrow.

Wow...it's great to hear that many of us struggle with the balance thing, and yes, sometimes I think I could suffer from a strong does of "the greener grass" thing. Maybe it's all part and parcel, who knows?

Thanks to all who stopped by. I'll be back later this evening. And happy birthday to all my fellow Librans!

maddie

Cathy said...

I have to work hard to keep an even balance in my life, especially now with my son living with us after his college graduation. I've had to adjust some of my routines, and held fast to those that I need in order to be content and give me a sense of peace. Lots of juggling going on over here. Compromise is definitely my word of the month, lol.

ddurance said...

Hi Maddie! Balance in life...that's a toughie, let me know when you find it. What is important to me is not so tough to answer, it would definitely be family, followed by reading and my computer time. LOL

Deidre

Estella said...

Hi Maddie,
My youngest son(40) is a Libra(Oct. 17).
I am not a Libra, but still find balance a hard thing to attain.

Maddie James said...

It's so comforting to know I'm not alone here!

Margay, yes, I thought a grown up Little Red Riding Hood would be an interesting concept. This novella is part of Resplendence Publishing's Wicked line. All fairy tales, etc., with an adult twist. I loved writing this story. It's set in New Orleans and in the bayou and yes, there is a wolf!

maddie

Margay said...

It sounds great. I want to know more about that wolf!

Deirdre said...

Balance is a very hard thing to maintain. My current balance point is somewhere between crafts (mostly knitting) work and reading. I do want to do some writing at some stage but I keep being distracted.

Maddie James said...

Ah, the wolf...

Let's see if this works. Here's a snippet of the story which gives you some info about the wolf.
***
Some may call him a lycanthrope, a werewolf, but in Cajun bayou lands he was known simply as The Rougarou. Top Dog, or rather, Top Wolf. He was more than Cajun folklore the locals liked to spin—he was real.

He’d gotten a bad rap over the years, the stories saying he brought death and cast bad spells, but the fact remained that who he was—or what he was—is of little consequence to most people. To live the life he’d lived, part wolf-part man, for nearly three hundred years was not only a hardship; it was lonely.

Although, three hundred years was a blip on the screen in the life of a lycanthrope, he was a mere young adult. It was high time he found his mate and put an end to his loneliness. He would be a better leader for it.

Restless. Yes. He’d noticed it of late.

His pack had noticed it, too.

They were small and strong in the bayou, but waiting for direction from their Alpha.

He’d become the Alpha not long ago by default, their leader and his mate having succumbed to an illness that struck half the pack. He was the oldest and the strongest of the younger generation, able to fight for and win his position.

But he needed a mate. And none of the females in the pack fit his needs.

A difficult situation, he knew.

Finally, it was coming together. The reason he’d been drawn away from the bayou and into the city. The moon. The calling. The spells.

For a reason.

Red.

And should they mate by the light of the full moon this night, they would be paired forever.

Margay said...

Okay, now that was just mean, teasing like that. This looks good and I like a good wolf...

Maddie James said...

Tee hee. Margay, you are my kinda woman. LOL

maddie

Susan B. said...

Hi Maddie,

Mine is finding a balance between, hubby, work, son, book time, & sleep. Most days I do good, others some things slide & some get more time then they should. It just depends. Now if we had more hours in the day I think I would do better.

Thank you,
Susan

Maddie James said...

Hi Susan. I so hear you. At work the other day, I was saying to someone, "Can we get those calendar people to add another month, say, between November and December? I sure could use one..."

It's been great chatting with everyone tonight. Thanks for coming by and also thanks to Terra for hosting me. I'll draw names early in the morning and post here the names of the two winners. Good night, all.

maddie

p.s. please feel free to come by anytime to visit me at my blog!

Maddie James said...

Winners!

I drew two names for prizes this morning.

First, for the print copy of Ladies of Legend: Finding Home -- Slayermel!

And for the ebook of Red: A Seduction Tale -- Danielle!

Please send an email to me a maddie.james@insightbb.com and let me know where to send your books.

maddie

P.L. Parker said...

I know about the balance thing - my balance has been off kilter for about 5 years, but am struggling to stay afloat.

Great interview.

Patsy
P.L. Parker
www.plparker.com

Michelle said...

I totally agree with your review.

tetewa said...

Hope you had a good b-day, I find balancing my checkbook the hardest!

Book Spot said...

well, Happy Birthday! :)

and I'm a Libra too (as is my puppy dog 21st & 6th) but we're both a little unbalanced this month since my doggy just died but I do think balance is a good thing to work towards :) (right after I get the puppy out of the pool)

Maddie James said...

Thanks again for all the birthday wishes!

book spot. So sorry to hear about your dog! but glad you have a new puppy.

tetewa...a secret...I NEVER balance my checkbook.

PL and Michelle...good to see you here!

Don't forget, prize winners, to give me a shout so I can get your prizes too you!

maddie